So I'm listening to Christina Aguilera. I love her songs, especially "You Lost Me". I just came from lunch with my amazing boyfriend, and my Friend/Co-Worker. I'm supposed to be working, but I have to ask you all;

Who is your favorite artist, and what is your favorite song?

I think the reasons listed below should be common sense. Kids are so precious and delicate as well. They are to be taught the wonders of the world and shouldn’t have to fear their parents. There is already so much going on for them to have to worry about later on in life. Childhood should be synonymous with happiness.

1. They’re kids

This is a simple one. Kids are tiny human beings who need love and encouragement, not rage and violence. Life is too short to let kids miss out on simply being a kid. When they are fearful of getting hit for something they have done, this causes them to be less free in enjoying their childhood.

2. Hitting doesn’t teach the idea of love

In general, kids  respond a lot quicker to love then they do to violence. I don’t feel that hitting a child  and then telling them you love them sends the right signal.

3. You need to show your children how to behave

Adults should be role models for children. Explaining to kids what is wrong and why something shouldn’t be done will teach them better reasoning later on in life. If they are able to work out their own problems with reasoning, then they are less likely to have built up anger. This will also teach them to resolve issues without resorting to violence. You’ll have to remember to use age-appropriate explanations, but kids do understand a lot more than adults give them credit for.

4. It doesn’t solve anything

I never understood how hitting a child is supposed to solve the issue at hand. Parents who hit to prove a point aren’t proving anything, other than they are bigger and able to cause pain. I don’t see how this proves anything to the child who was struck. Children need to know what they did that was wrong. Simple striking a child  and not actually explaining why their behavior is unacceptable doesn’t help the child to think before doing next time. If anything, this makes them feel like they need to be sneaky about what they do.

5. Serious physical injuries  can occur

Most adults are a lot stronger than children. Bruises, broken bones, lost teeth and various other injuries are likely to occur when an adult strikes a child. All it takes is one simple swipe of the hand to cause an injury. Many children have even been hospitalized after being hit by an adult. They are a less durable than people make them out to be. Children should be treated like a small care package. They should be protected from injury, not caused injury.

6. Child abuse is illegal

Even if it wasn’t illegal, would you feel more compelled to hit your child? I would hope not. Child abuse laws are in place to protect the welfare of children and to keep them from becoming a victim of something they have no control over. Children are too small to stand up to an adult when there is physical strength involved. Some people feel superior when they can show they are stronger than a weaker person.

7. There are other ways to discipline children

Plenty of alternatives to hitting have been devised for disciplining kids successfully. Suggestions are always offered in parenting magazines, from specialists, and people in the education system attend classes that deal with various ways to discipline kids. Some other methods of discipline include; time outs, taking away a favorite toy, removal from a group of friends, or simply having a chat with the child as to what is wrong about his/her behavior.

8. It sends the message that hitting is okay

Children who are hit often become hitters themselves. They tend to think that the solution to a situation is to hit the person causing the problem. I’ve seen parents who tell their child to quit hitting another child as they are in the process of hitting their own child. I always thought this was sending mixed signals. How can you tell a child not to hit when you are hitting them? Parents are supposed to be role models.

Sources: AllowWomensTalk

While I was looking around The Frisky, I noticed a list that I wanted to share with you all. The list is bellow. Let me know of you agree with it.

1. Forgetting to put the toilet seat down
2. Occasionally surfing the internet with one hand
3. Wearing fugly mandals (busted toes not included)
4. Working too much
5. Not liking the food you cooked
6. Being too drunk to screw after a party
7. Giving you a lame birthday present
8. Eyeballing another chick’s boobs
9. Knocking out all your DVR’d shows because he recorded a marathon of “Dual Survival”
10. Unleashing a fart during sex
11. Leaving the cap off the toothpaste
12. Having a weekly men-only night
13. Being 15 minutes late without texting
14. Buying you the wrong size lingerie
15. Always turning everything into a competition
16. Blowing a bunch of cash on some dumb gadget he can’t even figure out how to work that’s just going to collect dust in the garage graveyard of his other crazy purchases
17. Letting dirty dishes fester
18. Renting a crappy action movie for your date night
19. Insisting on keeping his patchy, scraggly beard/’stache/facial hair concept
20. Going to a strip club every now and again
21. Refusing to pick you up a box of tampons
22. Repeatedly trying to talk you into anal

Even though my boyfriend does do most of these things, there is one thing on the list I can not live with, # 22. Repeatedly trying to talk me into something i don't want to do. Sexual pressure isn't something that shouldn't be acceptable in any relationship. Is there anything you would like to add to the list?